This blog is an attempt to memorialize our parents and right the wrongs done to them, and hopefully, by making readers aware of what can happen, we can protect other elderly parents who could fall victim to their own family members.
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From: barbara lochner < To: Sheila King Cc:firstname.lastname@example.org Sent: Wed, September 22, 2004 2:22:55 PM Subject: food I talked to mother at length re their schedule and think the best thing they can do is eat their major meal mid-day when Theresa can prepare it, pack up the leftovers, and put the dishes in the dishwasher on the way out. This way the food is fresh, will taste best, and has maximum nutrition. It will be at least one hot meal per day. It also keeps mom and dad away from the stove, boiling water, heavy pots, etc. as much as possible. Also cuts down on the possibility of food going bad. Also doesn't require all that space in the refrigerator. They can have left-overs, sandwiches, and/or easy to prepare other foods at night. Or, if you are there and making something they like for dinner, you can share. Having the main meal at mid-day is not unheard of and anti-Christ. Half the world eats this way. The mid-day meal is called dinner and the evening meal is called supper. Daddy grew up eating this way. Grandma King did not - repeat - did not fire up the stove at night. They ate what was in the warming oven or sitting out from dinner (lunch). Mother seems to think she can try this. Daddy should be okay with this if he's reminded that this is how farmers schedule their meals...and how his own mother cooked. This simple change is the best thing they can do for themselves by far. The only downside is that this will take away from Teresa's cleaning time, but Rita can come more often... also not unheard of and anti-Christ. I am making a list of all the foods I remember daddy eating...easy to prepare foods they will eat that Teresa can cook, suggested menu combinations, etc. I am also making copies of easy to prepare recipes with a few simple ingredients. I will get these to you as I finish them.
From: barbara lochner < To: Sent: Mon, September 13, 2004 6:04:33 PM Subject: addendum I just reread my last msg to you and realize I did not make it clear that my brother thinks I should relocate back there and take my equal share in caring for my parents. While having no control of any of the circumstances. We are talking about people who refuse to consider meals on wheels and the local senior support agency. Yet think nothing of expecting me to give up my income, house, friends, etc. and go back in wait of my mother's ringing bell and daddy's next header off the tractor.