This blog is an attempt to memorialize our parents and right the wrongs done to them, and hopefully, by making readers aware of what can happen, we can protect other elderly parents who could fall victim to their own family members.
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From: barbara lochner To: Sent: Tue, June 17, 2003 5:45:35 PM Subject: my mother Mother fell down a couple of days ago and has a hairline crack in her left shoulder. Her left arm and hand are bound in place so she does not have a lot of movement and is now dependent on daddy for help with getting dressed, shopping, cooking, eating, etc. So while you are there you should expect to take care of yourself re food, cleaning up. I am sure she will want to make corn bread & other favorites - and maybe she will have all the ingredients on hand and can do this -but, also, maybe not. Help them out as best you can. Love, mom.
From: barbara lochner < To: Sent: Tue, June 17, 2003 8:34:40 PM Subject: catch up
My parents are not good. 83 & 84 years old. Still independent but not very. Wayne, my brother, is building a house next to them and gets an emergency call about once a day. He is loosing his sense of humor. My dad runs the tractor into the fence, my mother falls down and has to go to emergency, my dad falls off the tractor, my mother runs the car into a building, my dad blindly punches the buttons on the remote and wipes out the tv, my mother looses the phone, starts a fire in the micro and locks herself out of the house. The biggest health worry is that my dad has colorectal problems and will not go in for a test. Will not. Has a million reasons why he puts it off and mother continues to claim she has no control over him..never has had. Daddy's father acted the same way with prostate cancer. Only went to see the Dr when he could no longer stand the pain. By that time, of course, too bad. One could make the case that he was 84, but still. I have lost two friends (54 & 76)to colorectal cancer in the past two years and know more about it than I care to. It is essentially painless until it is too late. More later.
From: barbara lochner < To: Sent: Sun, June 15, 2003 7:44:14 PM Subject: daddy's health This whole subject of daddy's health has become impossible to follow. Mother is now saying that daddy does not actually have an appointment for the colonoscopy, but an appointment with a Dr who may recommend that he have the cs. All previous discussions re procedures, etc., re this test have evaporated into thin air. All previous appointments, missed and otherwise, have slipped off the page. Wayne is on the scene and having a hard time pinning both mom & dad down. I think he thinks this is a setup for yet another skipped trip to the Dr... Maybe you can get to the bottom of it when you are there. Wayne & Sheila are busily painting and cleaning up the little house for you. I have been quite sick since returning from Va. In bed several days with the flu..12 days later, still not right. Think this same thing happened on my return from Mexico. Could be a coincidence...or the air quality on the planes these days. Hope all is well with you guys & you are enjoying your summer. Love, mom